Mindful Listening & the tilt a whirl
- Hands of Light by Rosemary LLC DeTrolio
- Sep 19
- 2 min read
Updated: Nov 8
Rosemary DeTrolio RMT
When you were a child, did you ever ride the tilt a whirl? It was a dizzy ride where your brain scrambled. It was one of those rides where the other kid would make it go faster and faster until you wanted to puke.
Bad communication is like that. It can also scramble the brain. Before you know it, you are thinking, is it you or me?
Doubt creeps in.
Confidence tanks.
Here's how you know you are being taken for a ride:
"I'm feeling hurt because you didn't apologize to me."
"I'm sorry you think I hurt you." or "I'm sorry you feel that way."
"But are you sorry you hurt me?"
"So this is all my fault?" chime in the accusatory tone.
"I want you to understand how I feel."
"So it's all about you?"
"No. I want you to understand how I'm feeling. "
"You make a big deal out of nothing. You're too senstive."
No apology.
See?
No resolution.
No healing, let's-get-past-this moment.
No accountability.
GASLIGHTING.
This is a communication and relationship killer..
That's the tilt-a-whirl and I've been on that ride too many times.
Yes, there are always two sides to every story.
We must be willing to check in and take notice of our own behavior.
If you feel invisible, I see you.
An unhealed inner child is the culprit behind the spinning ride.
Of course, I always suggest doing your own inner work, see a counselor,
do your own due diligence. See why you boarded that damn ride in the first place.
Do self care. Reiki, massage, forest walking, or time away.
Consider a transformational talk session
(I don't replace your counselors or therapist but I can help you navigate.)
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