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Positive or Negative?

by Rosemary DeTrolio

Is a positive attitude nature or nurture? Being a product of my dad’s cheerfulness, a positive mindset was baked into me. But even pessimists can change to become more positive with enough encouragement and diligent actions.

Happiness is a choice. It doesn’t fall from the sky. There is no geographical cure for a negative mindset.

Did you know there is a hidden perceived benefit to negativity? Some people are afraid of positive situations. They are waiting for the other shoe to drop. Did you ever hear someone say, “The devil you know is better than the one you don’t.” That's pessimistic thinking. Some people believe they are preparing themselves for disappointment, but in reality, they are wasting the joy they could be experiencing.

Wherever you go, there you are. Change is a choice. We can decide to be happy or miserable based on our beliefs, perceptions, and mindset. A problem can be a stepping stone, or a slippery rock landing you face first in the stream of life. Ask yourself, what did I learn from this situation? Do this whether you view the situation as a positive or a negative one. If you find the lesson in all things, you’ve crossed the river.

Accept yourself. Feel free to rant and throw a fit when you are alone or steaming angry at someone, something, or even yourself. Get it all out. When you’re done, reflect on it. What did you learn about yourself or your choices? Even when your happiness cup tanks, chose to refill it with good experiences and self-reflection.

Need more Zen? Ask for a complimentary discovery session with me to see if my services are a good fit for your needs. #positive #NJ #optimist Hands of Light by Rosemary LLC

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